So, I use OKCupid pretty frequently. I've met a lot of really great people through it, both romantically and not. And it has a lot of good qualities! I really like the match percentage system, and I was pretty excited when I found the "I don't want to see or be seen by straight people" option.
But for a very long time, the only gender options were "Man" and "Woman." Which was frustrating, and obnoxious, and upsetting.
A few months ago, I heard they were starting trials where some people would get more gender options. So I started checking pretty regularly to see if I'd gotten them. Then, I started seeing people who had the expanded options, and I started checking pretty much every day. I also emailed the help line letting them know that I would be interested in taking advantage of that expanded option set, if they made it available to me. (They wrote back saying they'd forwarded my email to the developers.)
For a while now, I've been checking every day. So I know for sure that I only had "Man" and "Woman" to choose from yesterday.
But today, there was a third box in the drop-down list: "More options..."
I now have the option to identify as up to five of the following: Woman, Man, Agender, Androgynous, Bigender, Cis Man, Cis Woman, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Hijra, Intersex, Non-binary, Other, Pangender, Transfeminine, Transgender, Transmasculine, Transsexual, Trans Man, Trans Woman, and Two Spirit.
I selected Genderqueer and Non-binary.
OKCupid also asks me which searches to include me in -- there, I still only have the binary choice to be included in searches for men OR women. (No 'both.')
More options showed up for sexuality, too: Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Asexual, Demisexual, Heteroflexible, Homoflexible, Lesbian, Pansexual, Queer, Questioning, and Sapiosexual.
I selected Bisexual and Queer. (I considered also selecting Pansexual, but decided against it.)
I don't know whether I've finally been let into the trials, or if they're fully rolling it out now, or if they just plan on randomly adding the options to different people's profiles in an unknown and unknowable order and pattern until gender has been expanded for all of OKCupid.