A quote from whatever

John Scalzi's recent post, Speech, Conversation, Debate, Engagement, Communication, is awesome.  It's just a list of things that are true about speech, relating to asshats on the internet.  Here's a section.  You should go read the whole thing.

3. No one is obliged to have a conversation with you.

4. If they are having a conversation with you, they are not obliged to give you the conversation you wanted or expected to have.

5. If you challenge someone to a “debate,” they are not obliged to have a debate with you.

6. If they do not debate you, this does not mean you win. You can’t win a debate the other party has not agreed to.